#1. If you want to change people, change what they believe about themselves.
If people believe in you, encourage them to believe in themselves.
- Explain the positive influence of their passion, strength, or behavior. “The influence of your (strength) on (name people) is (impact).”
- Avoid superficial compliments.
- Offer assessments based on character. “You’re loving, kind, tenacious, or forthright.”
- Accept that doing poorly comes before excellence. “What are you learning?”
(Read, “Mindset,” by Carol Dweck.)
#2. If you want to change people, tell them the truth.
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