15 Sources of stress for leaders:
15 Sources of stress for leaders:
Empathy is a platform for relationship, not encouragement to wallow in slime pits.
Solid relationships strengthen people.
Strong people perform better than weak.
#1. If you want to change people, change what they believe about themselves.
If people believe in you, encourage them to believe in themselves.
4 principles of energy:
#1. People have energy. Lousy organizations drain it.
#2. Energy flows toward meaningful action. When people lose energy they’re doing things that aren’t fulfilling.
#3. Energy increases with clarity and forward movement. Sustained confusion drains.
#4. Leaders impact energy. Successful leaders protect, nurture, and ignite energy inside others. Foolish leaders suck the life out of people.
Take out a pen and paper. Write your responses to the questions that follow.
Writing is thinking.
I asked a team of internal coaches, “What advice would you give aspiring coaches?” These are people who navigate traditional job responsibilities and coach employees as well.
I’ve been working with some of the team for a little over a year. Others have been part of the process for about six months. Many have been internal coaches for several years.
I asked them to reflect on their whole coaching experience and offer advice to internal coaches.
Dad died June 25, 2012. This morning, I miss him.
Dad was a dairy farmer from Maine. He didn’t need applause for taking care of his wife and children. He humbly got the job done, day after day.
“Act like you own the place,” is a silly slogan when people are treated like expendable cogs in machines.
Hypocritical leaders expect people to act like owners while being treated like employees. Everyone knows its sleazy manipulation.
Employees don’t take ownership when they are treated like employees.
Owners run the place.
Quiet, slow-movers frustrate talkative, quick movers.
Those who think, speak, and commit quickly, often believe they’re superior to leaders who need time.
One of the worst things leaders do is over-value people who are like them.
Big mouths aren’t better than small and quick isn’t better than slow.
In praise of quiet and slow:
Poorly run meetings start in the wrong place and end up rushed before they’re done.
Right place: Leave inconsequential items for the end. Deal with big items at the beginning. I’m tempted to check off a few quick agenda items before digging into the meat of meetings. It’s seductive but ineffective and inefficient.
Don’t prioritize insignificant agenda items by placing them first.
10 dangers of inexperienced leaders:
1. Stop fixing.
If your passion for excellence and success drives you to constantly fix people, stop it. Problem centered fixers invite self-protective restraint in others.
2. Compassion wins.
The pursuit of personal gain and glory doesn’t inspire; it threatens. Inspiration occurs when others believe you genuinely put them before yourself.
3. Share frailties.
1. A strategy from Hemingway
The Hemingway Bridge
In order to avoid starting a new day with a cold, blank piece of paper, Ernest Hemingway ended his day by writing the first paragraph of a new chapter. During the evening, he considered where the paragraph might go. In the morning, he was ready to go.
Tomorrow’s great start begins today. End today by starting tomorrow.
2. Sleep on it
Everything you need to know about getting a grip on time is contained in three words.
Eliminate … Delegate … Accelerate
Eliminate: Stop unnecessary or low priority tasks.
Delegate: Give tasks to others.
Accelerate: Become more efficient.
All time management tips and principles either, eliminate, delegate, or accelerate.
8 Time Management Tips:
Poorly run, ineffective meetings frustrate everyone except the people running them.
Recently, I interviewed Robert Herbold, former chief operating officer of Microsoft and author of “What’s Holding You Back.” Bob’s quiet, gentlemanly tone shifted toward disdain when I brought up wasting time in poorly run meetings.
I loved hearing him explain, “Many meetings are useless religious ceremonies controlled by highly organized, meaningless ritual after meaningless ritual.”